A new path awaits
Change is a scary thing. Our autopilot doesn’t know what the rules are. If this changes, I’ll have to give up this or I’ll lose that. How can I survive if I don’t have tomorrow everything I have today? What I have and do now is so good I can’t let it go. I’ll be diminished. I’ll be less. I’ll fall behind. Everyone else will leave me in the dust.
(Sorry for the trivial example, but sometimes those make the point so much better.)
I have a fabulous couch. It’s the one place big enough for me to lie down (I’m tall). It’s made of fine materials and has great construction. The fabric is beautiful and has some of my favorite colors. But things have changed. It doesn’t match anything else. It doesn’t fit in the room. As wonderful as it is, it has become an obstacle and an eyesore.
Oh, but I could never afford to buy it again. Oh, I love it and would miss it. Oh, Grandma gave it to me and she’s gone now. Oh, it’s the nicest thing I’ve ever owned. Oh, I could never sell it for what it’s worth. Oh, no one will appreciate it like I do. Oh, it was my dream couch (several years ago). Oh, I can’t live without it.
But I gave it to the Salvation Army. Someone else now gets to enjoy it. I still have great memories of Grandma. And I got a new couch that was so much more appropriate for the space and the décor. Now I have a room that has no more traffic obstacles and looks peaceful and functional. I can relax there, and I can have guests there, and it is so much more pleasant to be in there. The perfect couch had to go to make the change needed for a much, much better room.
“Good is the enemy of better”? I don’t know who said it, but he understood the fear that comes from change. Who will I be if I don’t have that job title? Will anyone respect me if I’m not making that much money? I’ll never have another friend as good as she was. I’ll never have as much fun again. I’ll never like anything as well again. I’ll never be as good at this new technique.
Life will never be the same. Well, no, it won’t. It will be better.
Don’t be afraid to let go of some very good things in order to move forward. Much better things (often miraculous things) will be discovered along the way.
Carla Mercer
Miracle Life Solutions
Hilary said,
June 11, 2009 at 9:57 pm
Hi Carla .. good post – change is a decision .. growth is moving forward and growing! Good for you to change the sofa, and give yourself room to grow because you’re feeling better about that small challenging part of your life.
The Salvation Army will make good use of it too ..
Letting go is good – keeping going is even better …!
Hilary Melton-Butcher
Positive Letters
miraclelifesolutions said,
June 12, 2009 at 1:15 pm
Hilary -
Thanks for your feedback and additional input.
These physical items reflect the internal changes that also have to be made. We have good attitudes and ideas that we have to let go of in order to bring in the the better attitudes and ideas. Putting it all together, we have a better us.
Carla Mercer
Miracle Life Solutions
Giovanna Garcia said,
June 12, 2009 at 8:37 pm
Hi Carla
I enjoyed reading this post. I completely agree with you. If we wish for better things to happen in our life, we have to empty out the space. To make room for the better. Great words of wisdom.
Thanks for sharing.
Giovanna Garcia
Imperfect Action is better than No Aciton
Hilary said,
June 23, 2009 at 8:15 pm
Hi Carla .. go for it .. and you’ll succeed .. short blogs every day and then you can build, refine, add photos, videos etc .. once you know where you’re going .. just get in the habit!!
I look forward to more??
All the best Hilary
Hilary said,
July 5, 2009 at 9:13 am
Hi Carla .. as your picture says “a new path awaits” .. have a good Independence week and future ..
Go well and stay happy – Hilary
Donna Sweasey said,
July 9, 2009 at 4:29 pm
Hi Carla,
Well, to show you where I’m at, this is the second reply I’ve sent!! How can
you get this wrong??
This is a beautiful website and I am so impressed with your “blogging”. I also feel very fortunate to have met you at Craig and Giovanna’s yesterday. I hope to see and hear a lot more from you.
Warm regards and wishing you much happiness,
Donna