It’s too much to be just coincidence

coincidence

coincidence

Well, I owe everyone an apology. I should have let you know that I was going to be out of communication for a while. I thought it was only going to be for 2 weeks, but . . . time flies when you get out of focus. Thanks to all of you who were checking back in.

So many of the miracles I’ve been seeing the last few years have shown up as coincidences – coincidences that were just too coincidental to be just coincidences.

Last week I was at a seminar where I got to know a number of great people from varied backgrounds. One of those people was on my flight home. I was coming to San Diego; he was heading to Baltimore. Now those two destinations are not my first picks for being on the same flight, but there we were. At one point in the conversation, he, I’ll call him Bob, told me that the fairly new pastor at his church had come from a San Diego suburb, and that  the pastor was returning to a church in Oceanside, a town in San Diego County. I asked the pastor’s name and found I’d never heard of him. (Let’s call him John Hanes.) But I found it interesting that apparently Bob and I happened to be in the same denomination.

Two days later, I received an email from my church passing on a letter from the head of the regional governing body of the denomination. The first paragraph of that letter was devoted to welcoming Rev. Dr. John Hanes back to the San Diego region to the church in Oceanside.

As they say . . . “What’re the odds . . . ?” It was a very circuitous and unlikely route by which I had an update from both coasts of the country on a man I’d never heard of before who is not only in my denomination, but within the same regional organization. I’m having to restrain myself from trying to point out to you all the little odd factors that had to come together to reach this point of amazement. But that would take a lot of the fun out of it wouldn’t it.

Oh, one more thing. I’ve lived in San Diego more than 35 years and have only visited Oceanside less than a handful of times (not counting passing by on the freeway). I just recently began a business relationship that now takes me to Oceanside recurrently. In fact, I had been there just the day before I left for the seminar.

I can’t wait to see where this leads!

Go from good to better

A new path awaits

A new path awaits

Change is a scary thing.  Our autopilot doesn’t know what the rules are.  If this changes, I’ll have to give up this or I’ll lose that.  How can I survive if I don’t have tomorrow everything I have today?  What I have and do now is so good I can’t let it go.  I’ll be diminished.  I’ll be less.  I’ll fall behind.  Everyone else will leave me in the dust.

 

(Sorry for the trivial example, but sometimes those make the point so much better.)

 

I have a fabulous couch.  It’s the one place big enough for me to lie down (I’m tall).  It’s made of fine materials and has great construction.  The fabric is beautiful and has some of my favorite colors.  But things have changed.  It doesn’t match anything else.  It doesn’t fit in the room.  As wonderful as it is, it has become an obstacle and an eyesore. 

 

Oh, but I could never afford to buy it again.  Oh, I love it and would miss it.  Oh, Grandma gave it to me and she’s gone now.  Oh, it’s the nicest thing I’ve ever owned.  Oh, I could never sell it for what it’s worth.  Oh, no one will appreciate it like I do.  Oh, it was my dream couch (several years ago).  Oh, I can’t live without it.

 

But I gave it to the Salvation Army.  Someone else now gets to enjoy it.  I still have great memories of Grandma.  And I got a new couch that was so much more appropriate for the space and the décor.  Now I have a room that has no more traffic obstacles and looks peaceful and functional.  I can relax there, and I can have guests there, and it is so much more pleasant to be in there.  The perfect couch had to go to make the change needed for a much, much better room. 

 

 “Good is the enemy of better”?  I don’t know who said it, but he understood the fear that comes from change.  Who will I be if I don’t have that job title?  Will anyone respect me if I’m not making that much money?  I’ll never have another friend as good as she was.  I’ll never have as much fun again.  I’ll never like anything as well again.  I’ll never be as good at this new technique.

 

Life will never be the same.  Well, no, it won’t.  It will be better.

 

Don’t be afraid to let go of some very good things in order to move forward.  Much better things (often miraculous things) will be discovered along the way.

 

Carla Mercer
Miracle Life Solutions

Options from the world itself

metal gathering plantsI just read a blog post from my friend and great blogger Hilary ( Positive Letters ) that is a great example of solutions and opportunities coming from unexpected places.  Her post is about metal-gathering plants.  These plants actually pull metals out of the soil.  Some of them even keep the metal in their roots only so that it isn’t passed along the food chain to animals.

I would never have guessed that plants could do that.   I would never have even looked in that direction for solutions to metal contamination in the soil.  My mind is spinning from the possibilities from this little piece of knowledge.  Now, I personally am not going to be working on metal decontamination projects.  But I get so much inspiration about how miraculous solutions are out there just waiting for us to change our perceptions and see them. 

We’re so conditioned to think with blinders on; to think there’s only one way to do it; to think we’re so limited in what we’re capable of.  I don’t want to limit your vision by throwing out too many specifics.  Let your mind go with the possibilities and see where it spins off.  Hang on, if it spins fast enough, you might get dizzy.

Carla Mercer
Miracle Life Solutions

Turning an Empty Nest into Opportunity and Joy

empty nest fly awayLife is changing.  It’s moving fast and it’s going in a new direction whether we like it or not.  There are so many factors that we absolutely cannot control.  We think we are gathering problems for which there are no solutions.  There seem to be no options.  But we can’t see them, so we only think they’re not there.  The options are actually endless.

 

The most important first step is to change our perspective.  Unless we change our perceptions of what the problem is, we are unable to see new options for solution.  Additional options will automatically appear if we can understand our problem in a different way.

 

For example, several friends of mine have spent two to three decades focusing on their families.  Caring for their children in this crazy, speeded-up world has taken all their time and energy.  They have learned to love and thrive on the chaos and commotion that comes with meshing multiple schedules and loads of activities. 

 

As they succeed in their mission to get their kids independent and push them out of the nest, they are faced with stunning quiet and vast spaces of empty time.  The joys of involvement in the little details of many lives are no longer being generated. 

 

Instead of lamenting the isolation and loneliness, this is the chance to explore new opportunities and joys.  Finally, there is time to add new relationships and connections to their lives.  Instead of being pulled in everyone else’s direction, they can pick their own directions. 

 

The new perspective sees a situation of freedom and opportunity rather than loss and loneliness.  By being open to a new view, they allow themselves to try new things, go new places, and meet new people.  The options that just show up in this environment are endless.  They discover new passions and new ways to express old passions.  Life becomes a new adventure rather than an empty dead end.

 

It’s miraculous what can happen when we open ourselves up to new ways of looking at problems; they become vast opportunities.

 

Carla Mercer
Miracle Life Solutions

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